Solution Saturday: Liked But Ignored

Respected AND liked:

There’s a difference between being liked and being respected. I like ice cream, but I don’t respect it. You like many people that you wouldn’t respect as leaders. Here are some ideas on meeting deadlines and gaining respect at the same time.

How democratic leaders gain respect:

You gain respect when you deal with tough issues firmly, compassionately, and collaboratively.

#1. Apologize for falling short as a leader.

“I’ve let you down as a leader. Worse yet, I let myself down when I allow us to habitually perform below our competencies.”

Express discomfort openly. “I feel uncomfortable bringing this up. But, I owe it to you to let you know how I’ve failed our team.”

Be candid. “This issue is driving me crazy. I need your help.”

Teams respect authentic leaders who face their fears with forward-facing resolve. “I’m working to resolve this issue. I believe we can live up to our capacity. I need your help.”